If you decided to file for divorce this year as part of a New Year’s resolution, you are certainly not alone. Keep in mind that more divorces are initiated in January than any other month of the year. Nevertheless, you probably have a number of questions and have received a great deal of advice about what you should expect; mainly based on what others have experienced in their divorces.
In essence, people will hold onto preconceived notions about divorce no matter how uninformed or ridiculous they may be. With that, we will set forth some of the most frustrating beliefs about divorce, as well as why they are wrong.
A person must get permission to get divorced – Unlike some of the daytime soap opera romances, a person does not have to “ask” for a divorce in order to end a marriage. Once a person files a petition for dissolution, the other person cannot stop it by simply not agreeing to the divorce.
Adversarial divorces are the norm – Instead, collaborative and uncontested divorces (i.e. divorces that are not adversarial) are becoming much more common than nasty, contested dissolutions. If you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse simply want to move on with life, you should feel okay about coming to an agreement.
Divorce is the end of your world – If constant fighting and depression is your world; then yes, divorce is the end of the world. However, your post-divorce life will be a new beginning that you will look forward to.
Regardless of whether you have started a divorce, you can benefit from the guidance and counsel of an experienced family law attorney.