The sentiment from the opening theme of “The Golden Girls” is not limited to retired women in South Florida. We know that divorcees in Ohio can appreciate the support and candor that comes from a trusted friend. Indeed, having a skilled attorney is important in navigating legal matters, but having a friend for guidance through tough emotional issues is often underestimated.
This post offers a few helpful tips for those who want to support a friend who is going through a divorce.
Offer help – Simply put, offering to help with basic needs while your friend heals is the easiest thing to do. It may seem obvious, but it is surprising how many people may shy away from helping because they may feel like they are meddling, or that they are choosing sides. For stubborn divorcees who may initially shun help, friendly reminders may do the trick.
Have some fun - Divorce parties were not created in a vacuum. They were based on the need to blow off steam and realize that life goes on after a marriage dissolves. So no matter what a divorcee is experiencing, it is important to know that having fun is the first (and perhaps most important) step in the healing process.
Be a cheerleader – Many divorcees may feel worthless and believe that the divorce is all their fault. A good friend can communicate that bad things happen to good people, and that they should not buy into all the blame that is strewn about. Indeed, battle lines are drawn as people may fight for what they believe in. A cheerleader can help maintain a divorcee’s self-esteem.